Forgiveness… not an easy topic. Hence, not rose-tinting the title of this article as something like “The beauty of forgiveness”. How has the theme of forgiveness come up for you recently? Forgiveness is something we all encounter in our lives – whether offering it or receiving it. It’s not easy being a human being and we see both the worst and best sides of ourselves and each other, and we encounter so many situations sometimes through our or other people’s actions or lack of action during our lives. It’s a theme that affects us all in one way or another.
I feel it’s been a LONG time since I’ve written an article for my blog. The reason is quite simple – I haven’t had the inspiration to. Have you seen the movie “Never been kissed”? Drew Barrymore’s character says that a good writer writes what they know. Well this is what I know – Forgiveness is a topic that for whatever reason has come up a lot for me this first quarter of 2019, through discussion with friends, situations I’ve encountered and just witnessing and experiencing being treated appallingly (in my opinion) by unconscious people – therefore I’m writing about it to help in my journey of release, letting go and forgiveness.
Here’s what I know and want to share. My great “Aha!” moment (as Oprah calls it if anyone else here listens to her Super Soul conversations Podcast?!) came when I was reading “A New Earth: Create a Better Life” by Eckhart Tolle. This book is on my required reading list for the one-year Advanced Yoga Teacher course I’m currently undertaking. I have to admit, I was reading this book and would sometimes realise that 3 pages had gone by and I hadn’t even taken in a letter of it.
I began a new paragraph, nowhere special, it wasn’t the start of a new chapter or even a fresh page, just sneaked in there waiting for me. The moment I read the first word of this passage my intuition piped out “Catherine take notice!”. It was the passage I absolutely needed at this moment in time and as a daily reminder (multiple times a day!) and one I hope helps you as much as it has me:
“Nonreaction to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways not only of going beyond ego in yourself but also of dissolving the collective human ego. But you can only be in a state of nonreaction if you can recognize someone’s behaviour as coming from the ego as being an expression of the collective human dysfunction. When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were. By not reacting to the ego, you will often be able to bring out the sanity in others, which is the unconditional consciousness as opposed to the conditioned.
At times you may have to take practical steps to protect yourself from deeply unconscious people. This you can do without making them into enemies. Your greatest protection, however, is being conscious. Somebody becomes an enemy if you personalize the unconsciousness that is the ego. Nonreaction is not weakness but strength. Another word for nonreaction is forgiveness. To forgive is to overlook, or rather to look through. You look through the ego to the sanity that is in every human being as his or her essence.”
A New Earth
How does this relate to yoga? Yoga means to find union, to “yoke” with our true nature, our true highest self, beyond the busy chatter and mindless thoughts of the monkey mind. Beyond the ego. This is where in truth, we want to dwell. In this state of pure consciousness not marred by “maya” or delusion but to see reality as it really is. It’s here upon this level and state of being that we can surrender, let go and FORGIVE others who are unconscious and act from a lower frequency or vibration.
We are all guilty of doing this ourselves too – I know I am! We can also so importantly forgive OURSELVES when we become aware that we were acting out of ego, ignoring our gut instinct and going against our true selves. Therefore, we can realise not to take anything personally or internally because it was their or our own ego and not true self acting here. We can find compassion for others and ourselves when we act out of the disease of human ego. As the great Jesus Christ said of those crucifying him, “Forgive them Father for they know not what they do” – they were unconscious beings who didn’t recognise him as the Lord.
We can transcend this unconscious state. How? Tolle explains,
“There is only one perpetrator of evil on the planet: human unconsciousness. With forgiveness your victim identity dissolves, and your true power emerges – the power of Presence. Instead of blaming the darkness, you bring in the light.”
The chances are you have already awakened, at least partially, if you’re into yoga (or one of my lovely friends and family!) enough to be reading my blog!! That’s my opinion anyway, or is that my ego talking?! Either way, beautiful awakened light beings, I hope to see you soon on the mat and please remember to leave your ego at the door when you enter. I’ll try my absolute best to do so too – promise. x